Wednesday, October 6, 2010

A simple reminder

It is no secret that marriage is tough.  I used to think once you married the guy you didn't have to continue to do anything-that once the ceremony was over we all lived happily ever after.
Now as a grown-up, I know that one has to put effort into maintaining and growing as a couple.  It is easy to let things slide, to put off "us" time and give in to the grind of daily life.

Lately, my husband and I have had a lot of difficulty.  Not marriage ending difficulties-but more stress than a couple should deal with (infertility, money, he is out of work and the job search is not going well, illness and more).  We are very different in expressing our feelings.  He is quiet and reserved.   I am not.  I like to snuggle.  He tolerates it.  You get the idea.  There are fleeting moments when I wonder how he really feels.

Then, out of the blue, something happens to remind me that he may not say the words or like cuddling-but he shows how he feels in other ways.

This was waiting for me when I got home after my book club tonight:

Porch Light

My husband thought about me-and that it was dark-and turned on the porch light.

This is not the first time.  In fact, every single time I leave when it is light out and return when it is dark-the porch light has been turned on.
Every. Single. Time.

I can't say I have done that for him...

Thanks for the reminder, honey.  I love you, too.


  1. It's the little things that matter the most, isn't it?

  2. Sometimes it is the little things that we need the most. Stay strong. Hugs

  3. That's sweet. It's the little things that really do count!