Wednesday, March 21, 2012

I already am discourgaed by the system...otherwise known as "At least I have a clean house, now"

So,  we are officially licensed foster parents now.   I was waiting to tell you when I got the "Official" Paper, however, that seems lost in a shuffle of paperwork on someones desk--believe me, for 7 weeks I have been asking where that paper is and I keep hearing "Everything is done--it will be going out soon"...
However, yesterday we got a call for a newborn placement.  Baby boy born recently, going home today. Without going into details-the agency believes this child will eventually be up for adoption based on past history of the family.  So we said YES! and I started making a list-things to buy, things to ask--I took advantage of this event and rallied the husband into cleaning the house.

Then then waiting started.  Waiting for the social worker to get in touch with Child services, waiting for Child Services to get paperwork on the child. waiting for the caseworker to get that paperwork to the right desk, waiting for them to say we could go pick up baby boy, waiting, waiting, waiting. 24 hours of waiting.  

and then we were told we couldn't have the baby. 

Child Services used to be the only place to be a foster parent.  Then they stopped taking new foster parents and all these agencies were created-We could not foster parent directly with Child Services.  We had to go to an agency because of this system.  The agencies have all the foster parents now-and child services calls the agencies who in turn  find homes for children.
Except that isn't entirely true.  Child Services still has their old foster parents.  They don't get new ones-but they have all these families willing to foster-it's a direct route.   Child services calls them directly to foster-not going through and agency.

So where was I?  Oh baby needs a home.
Child Services called our agency because of a sibling....but when that fell through our agency contacted us...
when our agency called with our names Child services said ummmm NO.  We will place with one of "our families" because it is cheaper since baby can't go with sibling.  Not-"wonderful!, you have a family that is willing to ride this out and provide a one stable home if he is able to be adopted."  Just "no thanks--we will place with any of our families because it is cheaper".

So-rollercoaster of a time the last 2 days.  Ending on a low....but we are getting a good understanding of how things work-and why everyone complains about the system....

On the bright side-I have a clean house.


1 comment:

  1. Oh that is so annoying. Why don't they just state in the initial paperwork that you are going to get teased and mistreated by the system. I feel for you.